I am especially pleased with today’s stren (mental strength) because it provides, in abbreviated form, all the essentials to update our thinking to modernity, to “use our best to do our best.” This stren introduces you to seven critical Mind-freeing Life-changing World-saving Word-switches that powerfully make you master of your thinking as they free you from the demands of the early dictators who would control your life – instinct and tradition.
Welcome to the first of the 7 Mind-freeing, Life-changing, World-saving word-switches. This wisdom provides the energy to acquire all the wisdoms that follow.
Proceed to Module 1: Self Endorsement Skills
Donald Pet, M.D.
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9/14/2013
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Education in love-creation has been neglected. Sadly, most of our global population can explain how we teach hate-creation, while the process of love-creation remains a mystery. The secret of love-creation is acquiring skill in self-endorsement. Accepting responsibility to consistently affirm our self creates the love-energy we radiate to others. Loving our self is the critical mental-spiritual energy that frees us from dependence on others and makes us creators of the personal blissful calm and world peace we seek in our wishes and prayers. You will have difficulty finding a more effective self-teaching resource for quick and easy mastery of the skills that create love and self-worth than those found at www.lovingmenow.org.
This simple wisdom inspires a quantum leap toward creating a newer way of thinking. It is one of the most powerful wisdoms. I acquired it from an individual who overcame the most devastating of life’s circumstances.
John is a paraplegic. His broken neck changed his life when he was a teen. It was a game of football turned tragedy. From that day, he no longer had control of his legs or arms. Physically he knew he would be dependent on others for whatever time he would live. Yet, when I met John, he was applying for a job as a senior therapist. A helper took him to classes and literally turned the pages. He earned his doctorate in psychology. He met a woman with shared interests and they married. He and his wife were raising their adopted daughter. He was not simply alive; he was living and loving his life.
Good feelings stir us to continue in action. Immediate satisfaction is critical to sustain the work and practice required to attain the natural rewards of virtually every important skill: this getting an education, sustaining a relationship, keeping physically fit, playing a musical instrument, growing a garden, and growing our capacity for loving our self and others.
Once you recognize the value of self-endorsement and begin to combine both intellectual and emotional self-endorsement, you can initiate the skill of creating good feelings as an effortless habit. Your task will become much easier if you develop the skill I call “secondary endorsement.” Secondary endorsement is endorsing yourself each time you engage in the very, very worthy act of endorsing yourself!
Today I offer you one the most effective and consistent strens to help you become your own lifelong best friend and free yourself from dependency on dictators. Apply what I call the reasonable best test: in any situation simply recognize when you’re doing your reasonable best and endorse yourself for doing so. You will create and maintain positive feelings about yourself.
In part 1 of the stren on the reasonable best test of self-worth you were urged to endorse yourself each time you made your reasonable best effort in any endeavor. Because you always have control over your input and rarely control the many factors that determine the outcome, you can consistently fulfill your needs for emotional satisfaction. Now let’s consider how to maintain our positive energy when you recognize you aren’t doing your reasonable best. The question invariably pops up:
Suppose I’m not doing my reasonable best? Don’t I deserve to feel bad about myself?
The Importance of Self Endorsement transcript
Welcome to today’s insight! Stren #16 explains the multiple benefits that place self-endorsement among the most important of all the skills that we require to survive and thrive in today’s world. You will appreciate the series of sel f-endorsement techniques that follow and will eagerly add them to your collection of wisdoms.
Here is the simple explanation of why self-endorsement skills are essential for our well-being. Instinct and tradition hardwire their preferred problem-solving action pathways in the older part of our brain where emotion resides. We create common sense solutions to today’s problems applying new knowledge...
Here is an easy to learn great way to teach yourself to become your own best friend. I call this method “the tape recording.” You have the ability to listen in on the conversation you mentally carry on with yourself. Imagine you tape record this conversation several times throughout the day. When you play back a sample, how would you describe the dialogue? Does it sound like two good friends speaking with one another? Is there interesting dialogue? Can you detect enthusiasm? Or are there significant periods of criticism, boredom, worry, blaming, self-pitying, and so on? Why not strive to change the quality of that internal conversation so that you make your taped segments become increasingly positive?
Today’s stren, “Act as if,” is another very effective method to change and/or create new emotions. Even if you have difficulty experiencing emotional self-endorsement, go through the motions. Imagine you had a part to play on the stage. As every actor knows, if you put yourself in the role and go through the motions, the “act as if” gradually becomes “feel as if” and then the “as if” weakens. A genuinely new sentiment is created. What successful actors need to learn, so you also can learn.
“It’s fun.” “It works.” “It’s given me such creative ideas.” Such comments are some of the great feedback I’ve received from individuals who have used today’s self-endorsement stren. I call this proven mental skill “The Bookshelf.”
Although each of the 100+ strens in this series contribute to creating a joyous, meaningful life, today’s wisdom, “The Importance of Patience” and the following, “The Secret of Acquiring Patience,” are among the most powerful I have to offer.
Today I want to reveal the secret of creating patience. In the last stren I explained that through our decades of immaturity, instinct and tradition powerfully direct our thinking because they are hard-wired to emotion. They advocate the predetermined, proven solutions that worked for yesterday’s problems. As our intelligent cortex matures, it may recognize outdated behaviors and devise better solutions.
This stren provides insight into the automatic negative thoughts that pop up regularly in our conscious awareness. Like an underground spring that bubbles water to the surface, our brain is continuously active and multitasking. Much of this underground activity has to do with the perspectives of instinct and the traditions of our nurturers. Instinct is hard-wired by our genes over the nine months prior to our birth.
Welcome to Stren # 26, that addresses one of our most important mental skills. Gratitude is appreciation for what we have received. To gratify is “to please or satisfy.” It is also from the obsolete word “grate” meaning agreeable. Gratitude is a powerful force to grow our skill in self-endorsement. Creating an attitude of gratitude offers an effective way to become our own best friend. Gratitude is an antidote for automatic negative thoughts; that is, the self-putdowns and guilt that make us our own worst enemy. I’ve received many comments on the effectiveness of today’s stren.
Today’s stren, explains why we are biased to think negatively and what we can do about it. We are by nature’s design prone to distort events towards pessimism. There is no corresponding inherited tendency to think optimistically. The earliest function of conscious awareness (consciousness) in animals and humans is to anticipate what we need and avoid danger. Our biology is ever ready to release emergency chemicals to set into action our defense from harm, and our primitive, innate way of thinking has been preprogrammed with what we call the “fight or flight” response. All life is powerfully driven to repeat the life cycle; failure to excel leads to extinction. Humankind is among the estimated 2-3% of species that prevailed.
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Welcome to stren #29. Today’s stren offers a case study illustrating what I call our minimum daily requirement for approval [MDR] . Most people are aware of the term “minimum daily requirement” because we see it on food and vitamin labels: “One serving has 50% of the minimum daily requirement of vitamin C.” Just as our body has minimum daily requirements of thyroid hormone and certain vitamins, we require a minimum daily dose of emotional satisfaction to sustain our mental vigor. Today, we are very aware of our physical need for food, vitamins, warmth, sunshine, etc. and we know where and how to get them, but few of us recognize that we have a minimum daily requirement for approval to sustain our enthusiasm or how to provide for those needs. Are you such a person?
